Wednesday, January 28, 2009

say "no" and feel good about yourself

Is it difficult for you to say “no” when someone makes a request of you? Do you think that saying “no” is offensive and uncaring? Do you say “yes” even when you know you really don't want to do it or don't even have the time to do it?

If you answered “yes” to one or more of those questions just remember, saying “no” is important to say from time to time. It is definitely not a bad thing to say!

Keep the following information in mind the next time someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do or don’t have time to do.

1. Saying “no” is a choice, not a requirement. In any situation, you have the choice to either say “yes” or “no” but they are both good and acceptable answers.

2. Saying “no” simply means that you want to stay true to the commitments you have made. If you are a person if integrity, you will find yourself saying “no” sometimes.

3. Saying “no” to the things that are not on your priority list is perfectly acceptable. Keep your priorities in mind and only say “yes” to those things that fall in line with your priorities.

4. Saying “no” can empower you. It can increase your capacity to make choices and to transform those choices into desired actions and outcomes.

5. Saying “no” is just voicing your opinion, standing up for your rights, and become the sole proprietor of your life. Free yourself from the guilt associated with turning down a friend or family members by remember this.

6. Saying “no” is not a sign of weakness. It is actually a sign of strength. It indicates that you know your own strengths, abilities and limitations. If you don't want to say no, then learn to say 'not right now' instead.

7. Saying no can allow you to try new things. Just because you have always helped plan the company picnic does not mean that you have to keep doing it forever. Saying no can free up time for you to pursue other hobbies and interests.

These tips are a good reminder for me as well. At some point in our lives, we all fall “victim” to saying “yes” and biting off more than we could chew. Over the next couple months determine the things that are really important to you and make it a goal to say “no” to anything that doesn’t match up with your goals. You will find yourself living a much happier and more stress-free life.

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